Too funny, I was actually thinking about steaks when I wrote that analogy! Must have leaked through into cyber-space! I love steak.
I think we are like that, too, not just our partners. The longer I am left on the back burner, the more "done" and overcooked I am getting as well. I do feel that once I am at that point, there is no going back. Like Dawn said, as long as we don't get burnt!
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i see truth(or possibility) in the db process - HOWEVER i feel like - i absolutely hate being this little dog in her house- take me for a walk and head scratch- then slam me back in my litle house in the yard and i just sit there. (then i want to really dislike myself for not being a bigger dynamo who mans up and detaches totally) as in- ditches his @ss in a flame of glory- and is out of here - forever).
my brain says the gratification of that would wain and i'd be sorry later.
Nero, this describes me. I seem to lack the conviction at this point to kill the flame (however tiny, tiny, tiny) that flame is right now of Skippy and I reconnecting. I may enjoy the blaze at first, but at this point, I think I would regret it.
So here I am. I am not even positive that I am "DBing" as much as I am letting the door stay a crack open. I have no idea if I should be doing something at this point. I won't do anything because I have been feeling a little antsy but I can't help but wonder if I should be doing something?
I don't initiate contact and I responded politely but not overly enthusiastically to his crumbs. His words say he "thinks about me all the time" but his actions say different. Random, single text on the weather about 10 days ago. No follow up to my response.
These are just touch and goes. Any advice on how to handle them? When there are touch and goes is there something they need from us other than just politeness and/or validation? Skippy has never gotten personal and the reality is that I have not spoken to him in a couple of months now.
I would be interested in people's thoughts. I won't do anything immediately. Not really a good sign when I become unaccountably restless, but I am curious even on an academic level. What would others do in my situation? I am not sure the best answer to that is not "give it up, Portia".
