Then the rest doesn't matter, you're just driving yourself crazy with the spinning. To this day I don't know how involved W is with OM (she's always insisted they're just friends), but I was doing all that spinning to. I finally stopped and asked myself if it was a deal breaker. I decided it wasn't, that I would DB regardless. So at that point I assumed the worst- PA. I spun into a dark place for a few days as if I had actually walked in on them, but then after that I let it go and I've been fine ever since. Since deciding that it was a PA, I've never had the urge to snoop or dig or ask questions. Not sure if that would work for you but think about it.
