I too, did not think I needed a lawyer. Husband suggested mediation which I agreed to. Spent three hours in mediation (costing him $1000) and then he brought all of the papers to a lawyer and refused to sign any of the financial or time sharing agreements (we have a teenaged daughter). Then he accused me of being the barrier to the divorce and twisted EVERYTHING I said to him into a completely different context to support his story. It was at that point that I knew I had to hire a lawyer. He may be playing nice now, but I promise you it will not stay that way. I too got little "bombs" every few days. From realizing that he had met up with OW on our family vacation to finding out he never really got his own apartment when he moved out, but moved in with her instead (and still denies he lives there to this day 6 months later). I made the mistake of confronting him which only fueled the fire. I called him a liar and a cheater and he told me that living with me all these years was like living in a hell hole and that I never treated him like a human being. I think that is when he hired a lawyer. He knows he messed up but is in such deep denial, cannot think straight, cannot remember what lies he has told to who and so he neeeded a professional to handle his affairs. If it's one thing I wish I did earlier in the process was get a lawyer. It's expensive, but it will give you some peace of mind and a barrier to having to communicate with him. Communication will not be his strong point and his behavior will regress so that you feel you are talking to an angry rebellious teenager.Nothing you say matters. Better to say it through a professional. Stay strong, take one day at a time.
