I'm off today so I'm taking my cousin downtown, it's just gorgeous outside.
I haven't heard anything from W since my birthday. She hasn't done a pulse check on the "paperwork" she thinks she sent on 12/23 and wanted signed off on by the new year that I still haven't received. She also has not stopped by to get the mail and hard drive in the garage.
I just keep moving forward, haven't met anyone else yet that really compares to W. Most of them look better online than in person, and there hasn't been any sort of connection. My female cousin thinks it might be because I'm giving off vibes of still being emotionally unavailable that makes me seem uninterested in them and they pick up on it. I know that I can only really make friends right now, can't do anything in terms of a physical relationship. I'm slightly discouraged for if I do actually have to go through the dating process all over again that it will be quite difficult to find someone of W's caliber before we started having problems.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Day 13 of no contact. I'm in a much different place emotionally about this lack of contact than when I first started. I'm actually at peace now without contact, whereas before I needed it. I actually sort of dread contact now, and welcome the much needed respite.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
If you were in my shoes, and your WAS thought that they had already sent over "final divorce decree" paperwork to your attorney, would you let the WAS know that you and your attorney never received said paperwork?
I'm really confused by what's going on and why there has not been follow-up from her attorney or from her on the paperwork. Why has she not picked up the mail and hard drive? The hard drive has documents on it she would need for the house refinance she said she intended to do and have completed by the end of February.
Any thoughts?
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
No movement from W is good, right? Sit back and enjoy this non-movement while it lasts. It just means that D is delayed by this non-movement. Isn't this what you want?
No movement from W is good, right? Sit back and enjoy this non-movement while it lasts. It just means that D is delayed by this non-movement. Isn't this what you want?
I'm not sure if no movement is good, it depends on the reason for the no movement. I think she's under the impression all the paperwork is with me. In which case, I would be seen as the delayer. It is still what I want, but nothing W has done or said lately has indicated reconciliation is even on the table at all. I'm trying to have no expectations and still continue to GAL and enjoy my own life.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
A question I use with myself: Has anyone asked for my help?
Breathe.
Pronoun fail!
Haha labug! Love the pronoun fail. That is a wise question, no one has asked for my help. I will continue operations as normal until she asks me what's up. Thanks!
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
