I would like to say to him I don't and won't see you while you are with the OW. Seems counter productive in that it is controlling.
I'm confused. How is protecting yourself counterproductive and counterproductive to what?
And how is it controlling?
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And also not sure I could carry through so could be an idle threat.
It's good not to make idle threats but I see what you wrote above as a boundary, there's a difference. It is counterproductive to set boundaries you won't keep. Do you have any boundaries about anything with anyone?
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This calm accepting person is not me, sure is a 180 but I don't feel true to myself.
What does that really mean? When we make changes in our behaviors and thinking, it takes a while for it to feel natural. It also takes a while for the people around us to see that our changes are real and a permanent part of us.
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When I act as if when he iz here he accuses me of avoiding the issue.
What issue?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
