Ahhhh, you sound like me! I'm in a very angry place right now, and it makes me angry that I'm angry!!! Lol

I start Al-anon today. Do you have that near you?

And I have been going to IC and have a DB coach- the affair is not the reason the marriage is in crisis mode right now. It is merely a symptom- it is unacceptable in every way and not an excuse, but it is only a symptom. He will probably realize that at some point.

Hang in there!!!

Me: 39
H: 45
Second marriage for both
H left 12/2013
M:4 T:5.5