It's not so much the going out that bothers me. It's the fact that she refuses to let me know where she is going and when she's planning to be back. I look at it as a safety issue. She says it's me trying to control her. I disagree. I say it's because it's a smart thing to do. Her own life is evidence of this. She told me a story of her once being raped after going clubbing back in her home country when she was a teen. If I bring this up with her, she gets angry with me and says I'm treating her like a child.


Me: 49
Wife: 39
D's: 9 & 11
Together: 15
Married: 13
Bomb 1 ILYBNILWU: 08/2012
Bomb 2 I feel dead inside towards you: 12/2013
EA? 06/2012-?