moving forward? I wonder what does that look like PMA and G AL for sure works helps exercise helps I am busy but there isalways that shadow.. Guess when the shadow is gone then I am detached...or done..
I would like to say to him I don't and won't see you while you are with the OW. Seems counter productive in that it is controlling. And also not sure I could carry through so could be an idle threat. I have been careful not to back him into a corner or make ultimatums. He claims the affair is a coincidence and he was done with the marriage. I would like to challenge that but understabd challenging and arguing is not useful. This calm accepting person is not me, sure is a 180 but I don't feel true to myself. Yet being true to my self is not goibg to help me towards my goal. When I act as if when he iz here he accuses me of avoiding the issue.
He is stressed and wants it to be all over. Wbile I am working at controlling only me he is not going to be in conntrol of me.
