MMG, let m ask you, what do YOU want? My sitch is very young, but not so young. we've been going through the issues for years. She just recently moved out. But, I now have to ask myself the same question. she says she "needs to find herself.." in the meantime, I'm GAL and I did this successfully for the past 12 months as well. having built a life apart from W has really helped. I added more stuff to it when she left in Dec. Still moving along. but the ultimate question for each of us (you and me) is "What do I want...?"
Do you want a W and Partner this is acting this way? perhaps, perhaps not. mine is obsessed with horses and basically blew us all off for her activities despite my asking her not to. Your W seems to have other things that keep her away. I encourage you to read Sandi's rules. Don't do them to get a response from your WAS, do them to get healthy and detach from her.
If she doesn't want to participate in family life or wants to act like a college girl, move beyond her and leave her in the dust (figure of speech). The best revenge is a life well lived. maybe she misses you, maybe not. Either way you win because, your life is going to ROCK!
Trust me, I'm still new at this, but, I now see some of my life in your sitch and I can clearly see what I need for my own health and that of my kids.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
