Here I Am Again!

[Missmygirl]

Mr. Bond, thanks for responding. I always enjoy hearing what you have to say.

I have a copy of DR and have read it from cover to cover. I also have a DVD set by Michelle. I will read DR again on my next trip. I am sure I will continue to learn.

I agree with you that we need to have a full open conversation. However, I don't know how to approach her to have this discussion without her becoming defensive and the whole thing spiraling down to disaster. She really avoids talking about our relationship because afterwards she says she feels pressured and anxious and that our situation is hopeless. I get told that I am controlling and judgmental. I think only a third party witness could give an accurate assessment of that.

I think that we could very easily lay out our grievances. She does that quite often. I used to, but lately I have been biting my tongue. I am spending lots of time picking and choosing what fights are worth fighting. Coming up with solutions that are acceptable to both of us seems to be the problem. She seems to feel that any compromise on her part constitutes surrender to my "control". It's very frustrating. It's like "playing chicken" with someone who has nothing to lose. I feel she's ready to blow everything up at the slightest infraction on my part.

Everyone, thanks for reading. Most of this is just me letting off steam. I know it doesn't solve the problem, but it helps. I am looking to you all to hold me accountable for my mis-steps, mistakes, and blatant poor choices when you see them written down here.

Thanks.