I am so sorry that you received the D papers from W. We all get your perspective on why W wouldn't want to try to work things about with you, but she's on her own journey and feels that a divorce is necessary. People do reconcile after divorcing...I've read stories here, in the news, and heard it in real life as well.
It is just a piece of paper that says you are no longer husband and wife. Underneath is the emotions that shift and change over time. That is what drives couples to reconcile because the realize that a "divorce" does not change their problems nor make them go away. Eventually, they remember the essence of their spouses and they then start to miss them. Viola! They become friends, start dating again, reconcile, and remarry.
What do you want going forward in regard to W, F4MW? What is your vision here? How does that look like to you?
