Thanks AS, I feel like I am on the right track. And patience is the key. As when something happens - he behaves in a certain bad way all I need to do is wait and sure enough he looks inward and then apologises which of course is a giant step. So I look at these things as my positive goals achieved. The problem is he has not yet committed to the M. So I can't really force anything. I have another phone coach tomorrow so fingers crossed she can give me a few pointers on addressing the sitch. I read the DR over christmas break and it really did help with my understanding. The only other problem I'm facing now is I start to have what seems to be the suppressed issues of the real 'problems' we had in our M making themselves known to me and me feeling concerned we won't be able to address them. I know this is only a matter of time but sweeping things under carpet was one bad thing in M and me getting a backbone is a lesson I need to learn. Time is on my side. :-/
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Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
