3, if you are feeling like you're not getting what you want, definitely make a change!
It may take some time, but I think you can make some calls and just be straightforward with the Ts you call. Let them know what you are looking for, and find out who can meet your needs in that regard.
At the very beginning of my sitch, I felt desperate that I needed someone to help me. So I went to see a C. She spent the majority of the time looking at me with a sad look on her face (like, "oh, you poor thing") and told me that I just needed to feel these feelings, and yes, it s.u.c.k.s. She also kept telling me that I needed to see a lawyer, and that I should watch out for my H.
Well, I saw her for a few weeks, and literally felt the whole time like I wanted to drive my car off a cliff. I would just go sit in her dark little office for an hour and use up a box of kleenexes while she looked at me sympathetically and told me that was what I was supposed to be doing, and then I'd pay her $140.
Well . . . that might be good for someone else, but for me - I honestly think it may have made me feel worse.
Maybe your C was what you needed at one point, but not anymore. It's OK to make a change!
(BTW, I am with you - the people on this board have helped me FAR more than my C. There is something really special in connecting with people who have walked in your shoes.)
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
