Here I Am Again!

[Missmygirl]

To help you understand what I am dealing with, about 3 years ago, E took up with a group of friends who like to go out a lot. They are from her home country and so she feels quite close to them. She has essentially replaced me with her friends. The stuff that bothers me is the increase in her drinking and staying out late at night. Dance clubs and bars. Not telling me anything about where she is going. Only saying she's "going out". Not coming home until sometimes 5 or 6 am. I have been quite critical of this as most any spouse would be.

She seems to be trying to prove to me that she cannot and will not be controlled. She even sent me a pic of the guy from the Dos Equis ads. You know... the guy who says, "Stay thirsty, my friends". In this pic he says, "If you can't control your woman... then you have found a good one"!

My challenges this week have been:

Saying nothing after she came in from another night with her friends. I have no idea where they were. One of our daughters even asked where she was going and she just told her, "out". E showed up at 12:45 am. An early night. I don't like what she is modeling for our girls.

Today, one of her friends asked me (in front of E) if I was going with them on Saturday night. Seems everyone is going out. Husbands included. E never told me. Trying to navigate this one without an argument. As soon as I said something to her later. (She complains that I am not straightforward with her), I could see her becoming defensive. So, I said what I felt and what I thought and then dropped it.

She claims that she didn't know the guys were going too. I don't believe her.