PatientMan - 6th Edition - Acting Divorced

[AnotherStander]

So what do you (anyone) think of the boundaries we established?

Well, the boundaries are pretty specific, and clearly intended to keep the two of you apart. You've said you need that as much as or even more than your W, so for the two of you they appear to be appropriate. I think your W needs it too, because she expressed concern that you were too controlling (that's how I read the "daddy of the house" comments) so she needs distance from you. WAS's want to be on their own, that's part of their journey. They want to see that they can do things themselves. They don't want our help. It's a tough thing for fixit guys to deal with, but we have to quit meddling, quit dabbling, quit poking around seeing if they need something.

And what do you (anyone) think that eight days in she wanted to break some of them (hanging around and talking to me, then asking me for a hug)?

I think that you set those boundaries up for you, so you have to ask yourself if the hanging around and hugs are hurting you. If they are then you need to remind her that you set boundaries.

And what do you (anyone) think of my reaction to her?

I can't find it, what was your reaction?