Just tell her that you would still be interested in working on the marriage, but you understand that she doesn't want that and you will honor her wishes. Basically you're telling her your position while making it clear that you understand and respect hers as well. That's all that needs to be said.
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"Lastly, she mentioned to me the other day that she has noticed many changes in me. Positive changes in me and with the boys and she thinks its great, BUT, she said she afraid they are not going to last and you will fall back into your old ways again."
They all think that. It can take a year or more of consistent changed behavior before a WAS starts believing it's real and not just fluff.
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"Now I know all the above doesn't seem like much, but Deep down I know this women"
You may know who she used to be, but I doubt you know who she is right now.
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"and I would bet that she does not 100% want to divorce and to split our family."
Definitely not 100%, but probably 75%. She's pretty sure. So you have to go with the flow, don't pressure her, don't talk about it. Sometimes if the LBS can remove all the pressure than the WAS will fall back on the 25% "unsureness" and will quit pursuing the D.
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"She is a hard headed women, always has been and once her mind is set, its hard as hell to re-direct it."
So is my W. Look at my sig to get an idea of how long you might be at this.
