Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Im sure I know the answer to this, but I have to ask anyway. When or Is there a good time to test the waters with WAW? I would really like to say something as to how I feel to her before this Divorce is finalized. I feel I have to give it a shot, but Im sure im going to get smacked around here. Heres the back story;

As some of you know, my WAW still lives with me (which is good and bad). All in all we get along pretty well. We dont talk alot, but when we do its nice enough and I've even got her to laugh on several occasions. Basically just small talk here and there about the kids, work, dogs, chores, and sometimes about each others workout routines. I've been GAL and trying to detach.

The hardest thing for me is that she has been in FULL BUSINESS mode since filling in Nov. She has however admitted that she's not doing well with all this and even though she appears composed she is just in Business mode. A few other times during our conversations she mention how this whole situation stinks, and how its really going to stink once its all done.

Neither her of I have ever brought up R since I moved back home, but after we split the checking account up I told her closing this account stinks and I really think this whole Divorce stink. She said yes it does, but you deliberately made choices over and over, year after year, that has allowed us to be where we are today. This is now the unfortunate path we are taking. I said all be it late, I would have done several things differently if I knew what I know now. She said I know.

Lastly, she mentioned to me the other day that she has noticed many changes in me. Positive changes in me and with the boys and she thinks its great, BUT, she said she afraid they are not going to last and you will fall back into your old ways again. (I kinda took this a positive)

Other than that nothing major has been said, Just that we both agree us getting a divorce stinks and its going to stink for us and both the boys. She seem very run down and let's large sigh out quite often. She gets tired early in the evening and says she is down right exhausted. (i am too Mentally)

Now I know all the above doesn't seem like much, but Deep down I know this women and I would bet that she does not 100% want to divorce and to split our family. I feel she is afraid that I will go back to my old ways and nothing will ever be different. I can bet you she is SCARED. She is a hard headed women, always has been and once her mind is set, its hard as hell to re-direct it.

I just feel I should say something at some point. Tell her how I feel, tell her that I want to try. Or write something to her, or just ask if we could try again. Something before the divorce is finalized. Im sure I know the answer, I just had to ask.