Good for you! As they say "you are becoming the person only a fool would leave." And I guess only time can tell which WAS prove to be fools.

Just got caught up on your last few days. Sounds like you have figured some things out and are in a really good place.


The email contact is necessary and you handled that well. (I wish my H checked his email ever). One final word about venting to friends. If there is one silver lining to this mess it is that I really learned who has my back. I had 2 old friends that were slipping away. The fact that I confided this to them solidified our relationships. I also reached a point where I realized it was time to say enough about me but I now know who will really be tbere when I need them.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15