Omg. Same. I'm in my own negative place today too. Feeling like I can't take much more and I'm just as stuck as he's feeling. I was thinking, even if at some point there was some R talk - which I doubt - there would need to be some empathy and understanding for what I'm going through right now. The trust is broken and smashed into tiny pieces.
I just don't even know anymore. Anyway, sorry to hijack... But I get what you are saying, totally!!
Me, 39. H, 35. 3 boys - 13, 11, 9 - 1 w/ multiple disabilities BD Dec 2012 Sort of a quasi in-house sep Nov 2013