Great post, Bets! I nodded along with each and every sentence.

About the dating issue, I thought about it many times during our separation but I knew I was so not ready and that anyone I attracted at that time would not be healthy in the ways I needed.

Handyman story-LOL laugh

Baggage-I'm not carrying unless someone's paying me!

Quote:
I want to design my next 40-50 years to be what my heart desires.


Although I haven't read the book, this is where I have been for about the last 12-18 months, creating my life and not accepting excuses from me for why I don't do x, y or z. I'm working to keep that going while having a R with my H. I was way too enmeshed before, the pressure was immense.

I had a very productive couple of days. I am blessed to have a job that I love. Despite that, they about killed me yesterday, today is a jammy day!

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss