RT, the timing has certainly been bad for you two as far as reestablishing intimacy. If you have the funds I would suggest talking to a sex therapist about this subject, they can give you some pointers on how to wake that up in your W again. The fact that your W isn't pleasuring herself either would seem to indicate that her labido is nonexistent right now, so it's not an issue with you or between the two of you but rather it sounds like it's on her end. Maybe it's just that she's still recovering from the surgery, and if so then perhaps you just need to be patient. But I still think it would be a good idea to talk to a therapist to get an idea of what the road to recovery looks like.
