Your story is so similar to mine, but I am about 4 to 5 months ahead of you in the timeline. My bomb drop was in June and he moved out in August. At some point I will post my whole story but for now I feel compelled to offer you support. I can say it will get better. It doesn't feel like that is possible right now, but trust me it does. Your mind is busy processing all of this information and while it does that it seems like you cannot focus on anything else. Take one day at a time, one hour at a time - whatever works. Find a counselor, or several friends who you can talk to and who will not mind listening to you. If you do not talk about it, you will be unable to move forward. If you cannot talk to anybody - write it all down. The hardest thing to remember is that it is not YOUR fault. Nothing you said or did caused this to happen. This was brewing in his mind LONG before the bomb drop. You will realize this once you are able to process and look backwards to connect the dots. It is HIS choice, HIS crisis, HIS disaster. Do not let him suck you in! You will have to be stronger than you ever thought possible to make it through. We are here for you.
