Bug, thanks. I am learning. I wish she'd communicate...I know she is through her silence btlut your know what I mean.

I am starting to talk less about sitch and have openly said to friends thst I vented to thisn month that its my hope to keep moving and vent much less if at all. I thanked them for their support during this time that I hurt but said its time to make my life about way more than this. They accepted my words and we move forward.

I love my wife in spite of the hurting we caused each other. Other people don't have to get it. I see from mandys posts that my W is basically deaf to anything but her own inner voice about this issue st this time. They might be very confused upset, angry scared....lots of stuff. She doesn't have any room for me or my pain now. I guess loving her right now, means being quiet. Not sure if I will give up ssome day and decide I cant wait. But I guess I don't have to decide that today. Make sense?


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14