New here, similar stories to everyone else...

[MrBond]

"Well, he was/is moping around being depressed and angry with the news of the delayed bonus."

So? I still don't see how that affects YOU directly.

"In this example, the nagging feeling that his depression was linked to the potential delay in divorcing me."

That's you mindreading.

"His withdrawness, coldness, unhappiness..."

Again, that's on him. YOU keep letting it bother you for some reason.

"I don't know why I try and bring anything up - it's never the response I am hoping for."

First off, stop bringing things up. I thought you read DB? Second, stop having expectations. You will always be disappointed in anything in life if you have expectations. You don't want someone to automatically "expect" you to do something or act a certain way, correct? Why should you think the same for others?

"He's getting ready to go out and drink with a divorced friend..."

And what are YOU doing?

"I admit, I have no idea what I'm doing or how to implement these changes or how to not let him, and his moods effect me."

His moods don't affect you. YOU affect you. You ALLOW these things to affect you.

Think about it this way. If he were a crazy person yelling the worst obscenities towards you, you wouldn't give it a second thought. You don't put weight behind the words. Yet because he's your H, his words suddenly hurt. You can change your perspective on this.

"I am seeing a therapist... But if I were out of the home more, I feel it would negatively impact the kids."

Again, who says GAL means to go out? Do something constructive, take a class online or take up a hobby that you let lag. Just do what YOU want to do.