How to patch things back in R after affair ended

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Am hoping this forum is better then my last. Am really needing some advice/opinions.

H had A and the BD in July 13. Unbeknown to me at the time it was an addiction, a bad one. So bad that he started looking like a junky on drugs, no eating, no sleeping, skinny, dark eyes, etc etc. So although I was under the impression it was over in Sept/Oct/Nov it was actually them still trying to 'sort' out what to do. But I think now it was moreso the fact it was slowly over - the age old 'I love you/I hate you' type endings to bad relationships between him and OW.

OW turned into a monster and dragged me into it all after I had obviously detached myself from 'them'. She wanted to make him pay for his false promises and by that she could send lots of details to me and in turn have me hurt him or get angry to drive him back to her???? whetever the intention I calmly received all the emails and texts that she was willing to hand over and presented them to my H in another very calm but direct approach. He hadn't been able to give me his 'side of the story' so this made it all happen. I got a whole load of his confessions, feelings, apologies and his admitting everything was on him not me. Basically a massive unveil and now pleasantries ever since.
Our house is full of 'Sorry's, thank you's and 'let me do that for you' amongst other things. So I believe his goggles may be clearing. I see it like he has finally seen her in a different light and that was a very ugly selfish light that was prepared to ruin his 'family' christmas for her own self gain. I had a boundary issue which I'm glad I have sorted out now as I can understand after reading the divorce remedy that I was expecting too much - my sights were set a little to high.

We are flirting, having fun and looking forward to seeing each other. I'm scared and unsure how to act with - to much effort, not enough effort, just the right amount. We have not had sex but have been exploring other things and it occurs now almost every 2/3 days apart.

Nice texts from him asking how my day is and doing sooooo much around the house I can't believe it. We have been sharing the same bed (about 10days - but we've agreed its about bed comfort) and talking openly about OW and the implications. I know he wants to take things slow/unsure but we haven't spoken about the topic 'let's try again'. Will this come or do you think its best letting things smoothly transition as it really has only been 5/6 weeks since he cut off OW (read to give it 2 months). So I was/am giving him space and only showing him how fun I am. And besides I was given the directive that as long as I wasn't feeling used or something was happening that I wasn't happy with I just needed to be patient. So I am doing this and maintaining a goal list and a journal of all the positives to keep focus and to be honest, I'm marking of my list almost daily.

Does anyone have any insight moving forward on addressing the possibiliy of getting MC and or talking about the 'us' thing now I have allowed the A to fizzle?
Also some guideance on showing affection as I believe I'm going in the right direction but unsure about some other ways to show affection that may not be 'coming on to him' as I am still happy to take time for this and not ruin things.