An ever-present shadow

[Lonely Room]

Last Sunday I eventually decided to talk with my wife about the recent conversations that she has been having with the other man and the inappropriate texts.

I was calm and in control. I asked her that I wanted to have a chat, that I only asked her to listed to me for a while, and that then she could talk for as long as she wanted, and that I would listen.

I explained that I came across the conversations and specifically the text from the other man in the middle of the night where he says he misses her. I asked why did the other man think it was okay to say that to a married woman with an infant son and why is she always warn and chatty with him, even after that text.

She answered she didn't know why he said he was missing her. That she also felt uncomfortable but that she wanted to by polite because he's a co-worker. She said that usually it's him who starts the conversations and that she only goes on because she wants to be polite.

She said she didn't feel guilty because she didn't do anything wrong, although she agreed that he crossed the line. She said she will make it clear to him that those terms are inappropriate and she will stop texting him because it could create more problems.

I then said that she should stop texting him because she feels it's the right thing to do and not because I want or because it causes problems. She reassured me that there's nothing going and that her life, her phone and her emails are open to me.

I still feel that there's a lot she's hiding, that I don't fully know what happened between them and that I don't know the other man's true intentions. This kind of undermines the trust I have in her, and I know that's essential for a healthy marriage.

I think I will leave things are they are but keep my eyes open. Very open.

What do you guys think?