I wanted to chime in a bit about the organized part. I think one's inner life is reflected on the outside. If one feels conflicted, unworthy, confused, then their home life reflects that. For me, I pride myself on a clean and organized home because it is self-respect. Likewise with how I dress myself. It does not mean that one has to be OCD...far from it. It is how you feel about yourself and your surroundings.
