You have a unique sitch for sure. The first thing that jumps out at me, is that you H's words and actions do not align. He tells you one thing, yet does another. Which brings me to something you mentioned, "(a lot of lying and doing stupid things)" Curious to know more about the lying and stupid things.
I'm also curious to know what caused his first M/R to end. Did he end it? Did his X end it? Just trying to get a better idea if this is a pattern of his or if it is completely different reason. I realize that the meds you were on played a role to some degree.
Another thing you mentioned, is that your 180s are being more affectionate and being more of a pursuer. I'm not exactly sure what to think of that, given your sitch. I don't think that it is something that would encourage him to come back and commit if you are meeting those needs. I suppose you will have to monitor the effectiveness of those actions and adjust accordingly.
My questions about you:
What are your 180s outside your interactions with your H?
Are you GAL? If so, what?
What is different about you today, from when you met your H? What attracted your H to you?
What is different about you today, from when he moved out?
Outside of the meds, are there any other issues that you can identify and address if you haven't already? Perhaps things your H complained about.
I think these questions will help us to help you.
Ben
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
