Kenva, I am sorry you are in this place with your sitch. My condolences for your Father in laws passing.
Please slow yourself down. You don't have to react so quickly to all of this. Let it process a little, and let W settle down as well. She's grieving. She's panicking. She is desperate right now, at this moment, so give her space and the ability to deal with it all. Things have a tendency to soften a little if time is allowed. Just be calm and supportive whenever and wherever you can. Be a rock for your Son. Morn your Father in law. Stay strong. You WILL get to exactly where you need to be. You sound spiritual, so you probably know God has a plan for you.
