You're quite welcome, and let me just say that I completely share your sentiments!! My W has been gone almost 1-1/2 years and frankly it seems really remote that she'll ever change her mind. And I'm not even sure I want her to at this point because she's so different than who I married. But, the future is a big unknown as you said. I'm not sure if you've seen me post about my buddy, but he and his W are in their 60's. She was a typical WAS, blamed him for everything bad in her life and absolutely HATED him when she left him. She raged for months before finally moving out. They barely spoke for over a year. She moved in with an OM. Then they ran across each other and started chatting, that led to more chats over the phone, then some coffee meetings, then lunch and dinner, all pretty much as friends. After almost a year of that they started getting intimate again (by then she had moved out of OM's place). Now another year later they are madly in love again. She says he's the greatest thing that ever happened in her life, that HE is what brings her happiness. He didn't know a thing about DB'ing, but he somehow inherently knew to give her time and space. He didn't do 180's or anything, he just left her alone and moved on with his life.
I have another friend that divorced 2 years ago and is just now dating his ex again. Very similar story, she blamed him for everything and left him, he moved on with his life, they hardly spoke, she had a change of heart and reached out to him, they reconnected as friends and have slowly been getting closer.
So as hard as it is for either of us to believe, there is hope, LOL!
