Originally Posted By: 2stubborn2quit
Slightly off topic rant. My biggest pet peeve about Facebook these days is the constant spam women post with these memes about how men don't deserve women unless they do x y z and appreciate them for this and that...it's like a slap in the face sometimes. I keep reading them and think "I thought I was doing that".

Perhaps I should start making some of my own saying "when someone spent a decade and a half with you...obviously loves you and you aren't happy, try not being such a self-centered prick and give them the dignity of trying to make it work. Maybe even try talking to him about it instead of your stupid friends."

End rant. Yesterday's little phone conversation hit me harder than I thought it did; good thing I kept busy last night.


OK, I pinned one of those someecards on Pinterest last night that you might like. It says, "Holy crap! Did you just feel that? I think the whole world just revolved around YOU!"

Fine, so it's a little bitter. But it made me laugh.

I know how you feel - I get it, really. But I wouldn't get too worked up about reading that kind of stuff. I think it's often just a way to let off steam. I try to give my H the benefit of the doubt with this stuff (for example, he bitched to someone about having to pay for a house he "doesn't even get to live in" - ooh it still makes smoke come out of my ears) because I know I have said many things to my friends which I know could give someone who doesn't know what I am thinking the completely wrong idea about me, who I am, and how I feel. For example, I asked a friend, "if H actually does D me, will you set me up with your business partner?" I was SO completely kidding. I have also said bitter things, like I'm gonna kick my H in the balls, I'm better off without his whiny ass, and all sorts of other crap that I don't really mean, but am just expressing frustration and hurt.

Just a little perspective. smile


me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14