Ambivalent, Why not set up your ledger and calendar on the computer? That way everything is electronic and you can back up your system periodically.
As for the bounced check for the mortgage, I'm not surprised. He's already stated that he wasn't going to be paying the mortgage and I guess he wanted to write the check and allow it to bounce as proof that there is no money in the account. I would be watching other accounts to ensure that things are being paid regularly and not be surprised if something is cut off or you get delinquent notices.
Good luck on your practical. Hopefully everything will be calm and you can focus.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.