separated 6 weeks still on the journey

[melissag]

Paul, you have some good realizations up there ^^^.

I think you have a good point about talking about your sitch less with those who do know and are willing to help . . . not to stuff the feelings or ignore them, but because it becomes less necessary to talk about your sitch as time goes on. As I read your post, I thought, "I need to do this - there is no need to bring it up if it's not bothering me at the moment." Then I realized I am already doing this! Kind of a freeing thought. Thanks for bringing it up.

About asking your W to have coffee . . . as Gineen so wisely pointed out on my thread this morning:

I think DB gets everyone at the point where you do your 180's improve yourself and you 're like " wtf? Why haven't they come home yet? "

Well, we didn't get our selves here alone. You are not the core of all his issues. He's the core of a lot of his own. Only he can chose to address that. And he may not, it's a truth. You becoming the most perfect spouse in the world won't bring him back.

I think you already get this, though. You are doing great!