New here, similar stories to everyone else...

[artsy]

Ugh! This has to be torture, living with the WAS- it's horrible being alone in the house, but it does/will make it easier for detaching if they aren't around you all the time.

I'm new here, but I'd say you gotta let him stew. Sounds to me his issue isn't with you as much as with his job. You can't help that. I'm a control freak, too, and I KNOW it's nearly impossible to sit back and let someone twist in the wind when there's a better solution right in front of them...

You said yourself, keep DBing. It's the most you can do right now. Continue as if he never got upset.

Good luck!!!