I have no interest in taking my xh "apart and making him pay." However, I will stand up for myself and hold others accountable for their behavior. It's ok for me to feel angry, but that doesn't define who I am. For a long time I struggled to hold onto feelings of compassion for my xh. I felt ashamed if I felt anything different. That's wrong. I carried a terrible burden and was harming myself by suppressing healthy emotions. I won't do that anymore. I know my own heart. Feeling angry about being harmed does not make me any less loving or compassionate.
Wow,GM, wise and powerful.
I've just read the last couple of pages of your thread and am so impressed by your actions of late. Way to go! And I wish you all the strength and character you can muster to get through to the end. Sounds like you have firm control on this, especially since you let your xH in on what you have as ammo.
Yes, do what you must in order to protect yourself, your dignity, and your future life.
Godspeed and love to you.
Me 59 H47 M12 T22 No kids BD&S Apr 2,2013 - ILYBINILWY Filed 2/12/14 OW 11/13 The Universe always strikes you at your weakest point because that’s what most needs strengthening." – Joseph Campbell