I talked about my wife's addiction a little bit with counselor, but decided that going down that road and trying to figure out the what/why of the matter wasn't really beneficial. I do think part of her current mental state is the result of getting rid of her coping mechanish/crutch. I know i changed quite a bit when i gave up mine. Beyond that, I have let it go as much as possible.
Hmmmm, I see what you're saying but AlAnon, NarAnon, whatever Anon is more about you than the "qualifier". It's definitely not about trying to figure out the why/what, it is about detaching, letting go and getting support in that process.
Just a thought.
Keep working on you, that's all anyone can do.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
