AJ, maybe you don't realize it, but your response perpetuates the stereotype that women are emotional and don't think clearly. I'm going to assume that you did not intend that, but wanted you to be aware of my reaction to your words. You might consider what your belief actually is and whether that contributed to the breakdown of your marriage.
I have no interest in taking my xh "apart and making him pay." However, I will stand up for myself and hold others accountable for their behavior. It's ok for me to feel angry, but that doesn't define who I am. For a long time I struggled to hold onto feelings of compassion for my xh. I felt ashamed if I felt anything different. That's wrong. I carried a terrible burden and was harming myself by suppressing healthy emotions. I won't do that anymore. I know my own heart. Feeling angry about being harmed does not make me any less loving or compassionate.
