I like your change in thinking (or your planned change in thinking!) I think that's the key for us LBS's... I also have moments of resentment thinking how convenient it must be to be able to shirk all responsibility in order to "find yourself".
I wrote a mean, nasty letter to my H last night that was extremely rude and truthful. Then I ripped it up. It was great! Try it! It really did help me get some things off my mind.
After all, this part is all about us right now!!
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5