Reaching out for support and advice 2

[bluesgal]

Hey guys! Well, I had a great weekend. The kids and I were busy all day every day. It felt so good to see family and friends. Funny thing is that one of the b-day parties I went to was on H side. I am working on PMA and no longer thinking to myself "This may be the last time I do (fill in the blank) with these people. I am close with all sides of H family. They are my family, too. Sigh.

My womens retreat was excellent. I know people don't talk a lot about their faith on these forums, but I really needed this. It just felt so good to be there. I had some feelings/signs that I need to stick things out for awhile...

H has sworn to me and our D15 that he is no longer having A and will not continue that behavior...major humbling moment for him to finally come clean to her as recommended by our C. Time will tell. D says she will not have a relationship with him if he has affair partner. She is very upset and emotional and their R is suffering. H seems confused about how to make things better.

I joined our weight loss competition at work. I started teaching sunday school. I also started a 'supper club' with our friends. I have been taking on projects in the home-fixing the furnace, unclogging toilets...don't ask , shoveling snow, and prepping garbage/recyclables for dump-all previously H jobs and it feels so good to not be dependent on him. H doesn't like when we do these things. He came home today to find D and I shoveling our sidewalks and told us he'd take care of it. When I didn't hand over the shovel, he said "I'm not going in the house while my wife and D are out shoveling in the cold." So, now he's a knight in shining armour

He continues to do strange things. He went and bought S6 a new tablet for games today even after we decided just yesterday that we'd get it for his birthday in 2 months. He actually made a special trip in a snowstorm to do this. Then spent the entire day fiddling with that. Eye roll. H is in such a great mood with this purchase. It seems almost like a 'high'.

I'm going to read "The Secret" again to help with PMA and thoughts. I am also getting several books from the library about loss of love to help me get through my grief and detach more. H strange behavior and my LBS fog lifting are also helping with that.

My MIL called today and told me about conversation she had with H yesterday. They were trying to make arrangements for our S for a playnight and she said H was very difficult to talk to...like he didn't understand basic plans. Then today he proceeded to do the opposite of what they agreed upon and then MIL had to call and walk him through a basic conversation. She said "Now I understand what you are going through."

Some days I wonder what his job performance is like since the H we see is so out of sorts. I used to worry about these things. Now I just wonder. I guess that's progress.

Are these bizarre behaviors and forgetfulness normal for these WAS/MLCers?