I think Michelle's quote sums this thread up nicely:
Yes, the lower drive person has veto power. But likewise, the higher drive person can veto monogamy. In a real sense, no person can control their spouse's behavior.
So I find it interesting that the general assumption behind MWD's statement is essentially that it is considered a greater wrong to go outside the marriage for sex when your spouse has shut you off than it is to shut off your spouse.
That is, it is more virtuous to be celibate when your spouse does not consent to it than it is to have sex when your spouse does not consent to. Somehow seems to be a reflection of American puritanism.
