It isnt necessarily harder with them at home, just different.
It is all about your mindset, Ang.
The thing to remember is that your actions are always the same - regardless of his.
You are always strong, confident, and calm. No matter what he says or does.
Whether he is angry or nice, you are always the same.
Your mindset needs to be that you are putting your marriage safely in a box and storing it away for now and you are moving forward in your life.
You are figuring out who you want to be.
Put some stuff on your bucketlist. Big things, small things. Things you look forward to, things you wish to do. And then, work towards some of them. If you want to travel one day, check into those places. Nice to have dreams into the future.
Remember that you are worthy, A, and unique, special.
Walk around as if you have a secret. And that the secret is that you are strong and lovable.
Show him strength. Show him who you want to be. Then be that person each day. That should be your goal.
I know that people think that if they could just find the right words, it will make a difference. If they are nice enough, if they hold on enough.
When really, all those cant be further from the truth.
The truth is that you dont have the power to start or stop a MLC. It was destined to happen.
There isnt anything that you can say to pull him out of it.
Pursuing and holding on wont affect the outcome. But moving forward, letting go and making changes can.
The sooner you just accept what is and that you cant stop it, the sooner you get to the good parts. The parts where you become the woman you were meant to be.
