"My wife and I had a great marriage and a great life."

This might have been in your opinion. What you posted after this sure didn't sound like an 'ideal' marriage.

In terms of the "differences" that your W talks about, what are they? Have you addressed any of those?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER