I have dropped the forum for about the past 4 months. I thought i would come back, read up on others and let everybody know how things go.
BTW, dropping the forum for awhile was good for my mental health.
More or less, things have been well between us. My W and I spend a lot of time together. She was turned down for admissions, and for now seems accepting that she will not be going back to school. Although she is not happy with her job.
My W has made some nice choices to be with me versus do something else and she seems less depressed. For example, this past Friday she said she wanted to eat early so that she could go to the gym. I told her I didn't want to eat early, so she decided to skip the gym and she ate with us at a resturant.
With that said, my W is still working through MLC issues. She still goes out frequently (averages 3 times a week) and a few times she's been out late to 10pm during the week.
Some changes are a permanent change of her personality now. Permanent changes are her extreme need to have many, many friends and have a very socially active life. Physical activity is now a big part of her life. She has dropped many things that she used to enjoy. This week, I asked her if she read a book, and she admitted that she hasn't read in a long time because, "Whenever I pick up a book, I feel like I should be doing something else..."
So in summary, our interactions are good, DB-ing has become a part of me, and we are living as a close married couple. She seems content with the way things are between us. I still feel we need to make progress. I have not heard the words, "I love you" from her, nor have we had any relationship talks. I'm not sure when, if ever to initiate them.
I thought I would post this because I notice on the forum mostly failures and sad stories. I believe the people who are successful in rebuilding their life and relationships, they are the ones who leave the forum.
I don't count myself as a success yet, but I am much better off than 6 months ago, and content with how things are for now.
