I agree with 3 wholeheartedly. This is going to take some time and a lot of hard work to fix. You didn't get to this point overnight and it isn't going to be repaired overnight.
I can tell you that walking on eggshells and being guided by fear are not attractive. Begin confident and decisive are attractive.
I know how difficult this is and there is a lot to process. I can't emphasize patience enough.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa