As of November 1 my wife and I have separated, this is my first marriage the second for her. I have 3 kids; 2 step sons and 1 daughter. During our 11 year marriage there has been rocky spots, which were mainly my doing. The last 7 months before we decided to separate were not good, which was also mainly my fault. I know it takes two to tango but the highest percentage of the issues were caused by me. Since I moved out I've had plenty of time to think about how I would make myself a better person, reading the book also has helped out a ton. What my main issue is I don't know if my wife wants to fix our marriage. She has sent many mixed signals. The talk of divorce has only been mentioned once; that was in the first week after I moved out (she was mad & is still mad). She has noticed the changes that I'm making and has asked a ton of questions, but the bad part is she is seeing her old high school boyfriend. I know this because she told me. She states that it is only for convenience, they haven't seen each other in 25 years, he live 3 1/2 hours away and has been married 3 times with 5 kids. She states that its easy cause they already know each other. She also got back in contact with him because she knew he would drop everything and take care of her, which is what's happening, he is giving her money to help her out, driving down to the house to fix things that I hadn't got to plus installing things that we have never had. She states that she is just enjoying her life (we both completed both our B.S. and Masters during our marriage) and wants to have some "fun".
I'm using tips from the book to heal myself and make myself a better person, even though she takes notice on my changes her main focus is on her new "boyfriend".
Any words of wisdom or advice from anyone who has experienced this type of situation
