So, interesting that you keep questioning what you are trying to save.

Is it an intact family for the kids? Is it a moral idea about marriage? Is it s vision of a better relationship with W.

No right answer just something to think about.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15