LT, I really like what you posted and I know that I have away to go about the detachment piece. Each day is getting a little easier, but I still have bad days.

I am getting feedback now that people know about this that things aren't always as I thought. More than one person has commented that W was openly distaining of me while we attended public things together. When my back was turned she would roll her eyes or make fun. They were not comfortable telling me this while we were "a couple". The people that said this did not know each other and we attended 2 different events with different people so its interesting to get that feedback. Neither person knew what the other had said.

I did notice that we were rarely invited to go places together. Seems that it was uncomfortable for people.

Not sure what I am trying to save here....?


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14