my wife left, but still lives with me

[FloydMan]

I'm with ya brother...I miss those same things. Then I start to balance the negatives about our relationship that was making us both unhappy. I don't miss those. If there is no OM or 3rd party, maybe you have a better chance than I to rekindle the good things and eliminate the bad, or at least most of them. For her, the bad still outweigh the good. In my sitch, that damage of trust and ongoing deceptions on a number of fronts, not just the A along with the refusal to work on trust and the assigned programs/ exercises made that impossible to overcome. This is why I mentioned before to be soooooo consistent in your behaviours and actions. That will speak to trust.