You are absolutely correct, LA. I do still hold a grudge about the end of our relationship and how it came about. I really struggle with that, because I whole heartedly feel that our issues were not enough to end a marriage, especially without trying to work through them. Don't get me wrong. I do accept that it was enough for HER to want to leave, but that doesn't change my personal views. Everything else you said, I agree with. I am trying to be as friendly and understanding as a soon to be ex-husband can be. I do not battle with her. I am always cordial and always obliging. Although not very often, but I do compliment her from time to time. I try to validate. No negative words have been used between us for months and months. We are not overly caring for each other, and of course no personal sharing is ever expressed between us. Other than in regards to daughter and this death in my family, W and I have literally no connection, friends, foes or otherwise. How do I bridge that gap?
