Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

A thought just occurred to me.

I have moved back to the marital home. I am doing what I told myself I would. Cleaning the house, preparing for some upgrades, GALing, letting wife have her space and trying some 180's.

If the wife loses her source of income in a few weeks, I will have to pick up the financial slack. She is very involved in the gym that she goes to. Any normal job with commute time will play havoc with her routine at the gym, I believe this is hampering her job search. I am not positive of this because there is not much communication between us so I am just guessing.

While I work 40-50 hours per week, I still find time to go work out, and still do things around the house, but not everyday twice a day like my W. I have no physical proof of an A but by just observing there is a strong possibility of at least an EA and most likely a PA. I also believe this hampering the job search.

Not sure if my W suspects I know or not again no communication

My issue is how to handle these situations?

While I need to pick up more of the bill paying to keep the household running. My W for lack of a better term gets to "mooch" off me sort of. If we were still together this is not even considered a problem.

But since we are technically S. The wife gets to do whatever she feels like, Gym two times a day, food, possible A, roof over her head and I have to take it.

Is she thinking about me like I am an idiot because I might have feeling about an A but am not confronting and as long as he is paying I might as well stay and are other people looking at me and saying he is crazy doesn't he see what is going on?

In reality I am not naïve, I just love my W and want her to come back.

I understand from reading DR that all the work is on me. I have been doing all those things. IMC, GAL, 180's, How then am I to handle a situation where all these possibly aren't working or won't work.

I can continue doing all things indefinitely. It just seems like right now my W is not having to deal with any of the consequences of being a WAW. She said she has no money to file for D. Without a job she certainly won't have the money so I guess my question is. Is there a way to make S life a little more uncomfortable for her and it not be considered going against DBing principles?

I feel like the W is cake-eating and I am allowing it to happen is this normal to feel this way